Domestic Violence is not only a social crisis, but also a spiritual one. It often
thrives in silence, hidden behind doors closed by fear, shame and
misunderstanding. While other times, it’s hidden in plain sight, behind the
mask of the smile one must put on in public spaces. Those of us who are
believers in the truth of the Gospel must learn to look beyond appearances
and into the pain behind the smiles and into the homes where hurt hides. We
are to be that light, reminding them that God sees, God cares, and God
delivers.
Each year, millions (women, men and children) are affected by Domestic
Violence. Physical abuse is the most common form of Domestic Violence
that plagues our society, but it is not the only form of abuse. Emotional
manipulation, financial control and spiritual misuse are also tactics used in
Domestic Violence situations. God never designed marriage or relationships
of any kind, to be places of fear. Abuse of any kind grieves the heart of God.
Too often, victims remain silent because they fear judgement, disbelief or
being told to “pray harder”, but healing can begin when we create safe spaces
for truth. We who are leaders and brothers and sisters in Christ, must
become informed and compassionate in this space. In fact, the Bible is filled
with God’s concern for the vulnerable. Psalm 34:18 reminds us, “The Lord is
close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” We
reflect the heart of Christ when we stand with the outcast and those who have
been abused and mistreated.
For those who are suffering, know that God does see you and God loves you!
He does not condone your pain. Here are some steps one can take towards
healing and hope:
1- Pursue Protection: Reach out for reliable help and prioritize safety. Do
not underestimate the power of connection – Family, Friends or local
community resources. If you’re ever in danger, you can call 1-800-799
SAFE (7233) or visit thehotline.org
2- Partner in Prayer: Invite God into your situation. He listens and He
loves. Seek spiritual guidance from your pastor and/or counselor who
understand both scripture and trauma. Healing can often be found
through Godly community.
3- Perceive your Preciousness: You must begin to see yourself as God
sees you. You are not what’s been done to you, but you are who God
says you are; Valuable, Victorious, Chosen, Cherished and Worthy of
Peace!
4- Plan for Progress: Pray for peace, plan your next steps and rest in the
truth that God still redeems, one day, one prayer, one choice at a time!
Faith and Safety should walk hand in hand.
“He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim freedom for the
captives and release from darkness for the prisoners.” – Isaiah 61:1 This verse
was fulfilled by Christ but it is to be lived out by those who call themselves
believers each and every day.